We all have a desire to be around people that lift us up, people with a positive energy that vibrates so intensely we cannot help but spend time with them. As adults we have the power to choose who we allow to remain in our lives. The most desired relationships are those that have a balance of energy flowing through, meaning each side has an equal amount to offer the other. If you find yourself in a relationship: friendship, family, co-worker or other where you feel drained and like you give waaaayyy more than you receive from it, it is perfectly okay to protect your energy and put up boundaries that allow you to spend your time and energy with people that fill you up instead.
A strong successful tribe consists of people who believe in and encourage one another, even when you may not believe in yourself. They support and teach you until you are able to support yourself. No one is perfect, nor should you be striving for perfection! Differences in strengths, experiences and abilities should all be cultivated and embraced, they are what provide strength and uniqueness to a tribe. Let go of the relationships that no longer serve you and be open to surrounding yourself with the best people for your soul.
Your tribe can consist of a variety of people and should extend to your children. It is true that it takes a village to raise a child; when assembling your people consider what your shared values and goals are, as well as what your needs are. What characteristics do the people in your inner circle possess that you find especially appealing; are they free spirited, successful, passionate, emotional, accepting, understanding, compassionate, strong, or fun? or are they great at self-care and balancing life? What do they bring into your life? What influence do you want them to have on your child? Think about community members, teachers, family members, neighbours, family friends, coaches, friends, co-workers etc… the list is endless.
The function of the tribe, once customized is to have a role and contribution from each member who work together for the greater good. The tribe cannot be self-serving or it will fall apart. Not everyone is going to be a good fit. As you move through life; growing and changing as a person, so will your tribe. We attract what we put out. In order to receive support, love, and all the good things, we have to treat others the same. As humans we crave connection and a place of belonging. At one point or another your strengths will be drawn upon by someone else’s tribe and you will have a role to play in their life; be aware of the energy you bring fourth and embrace your strengths. Empathy, kindness, and compassion are all things that we can pass on to each other and most importantly teach our children.
“Everyone wants to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” ― Oprah Winfrey